Why women have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be fraught with evils, cause despair, and other harms. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, funds, age difference, spiritual upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am conserned mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your family or anybody else? You would need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your funds are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a man I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us men of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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